I went through a phase recently in which I read a lot of relational books, and I think I may return to that trend at some point because it’s the one area in contemporary literature that I think I actually quite enjoy. My interest was partly driven by my own consideration of the value and worth of long-term relationships and marriage. Would be something that would actually suit me at all? Also, there is a lot to glean off relational books such as new insights into the psychology of relationships and everyday relational soft skills that could be applied in a wide variety of situations not simply heterosexual, coupled relationships. Anyway, after reading Chapman’s first book The 5 Love Languages, I decided that I would read his second, Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married.
The decision to get married will impact one’s life more deeply than almost any decision in life. Yet people continue to rush into marriage with little or no preparation for making a marriage successful. In fact, many couples give far more attention to making plans for the wedding than making plans for marriage. The wedding festivities last only a few hours, while the marriage, we hope, will last for a lifetime.
To get to the review, like many topic-specific writers, Chapman tries to expand on the original book, but it does not turn out nearly as good for him as it does for other writers. I, personally, found that he repeats a lot of relational common sense. He may have felt, like so many other relational experts out there, that common sense is not so common, especially when sex and emotions are involved. Anyway, it was a quick read, but there isn’t anything uniquely memorable about this book. Chapman provides similar case studies from his first book, brings in his experience as religious marriage counselor again, and that’s basically the book. It makes for a short and rather disappointing book review, I know. Readers are better off only reading The 5 Love Languages. Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Got Married is a bit of a flop for me. Skip it!
Chapman, Gary. Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Got Married. Chicago, Moody Publishers, 2010.
Get new content delivered directly to your inbox.